AN AVERAGE DAY OF A DIVA..DAY 27

Well there are many things a day can be for me...But I will give you just one typical day...I work everyday...all day...For starters I work in a very demanding and forever changing industry...Mortgages...Yes I said it with all of the bad press Banks have been getting for the last five years at least..I try not to share this information about me to much...LOL (I may have to get protection after this blog..LOL So I won't name the bank even though it is in my profile on my page..LOL)...Well first before I even get to work I have to be a mother first...My daughter lives in Chicago at the moment going to school and just trying to be her own person...she called it finding herself..WHATEVER...So that leaves my son..the joy of my everyday...He goes to an alternative institute and I make sure he gets on that bus everyday...He pretty much is a very independent person so I don't have to do too much but reminders...Even with his disabilty we never treated him any different than a normal child...he had responsibilites and was held accountable for his actions...He is considered high function Austim...After I get him off to school I get ready for my very busy day...After work I am now slammed with reviewing files..answering phones and meetings..meetings and more meetings...How much talking and planning can you do...I usually work for about 12 to 13 hours a day...If it is one of my training session days..I try to get off on time to make it to the gym...Once I get home I start dinner..take a shower and grab my laptop to read emails and answer online messages..do some reading or writing and of course check on my crops in Farmville..LOL and most recently try to read some of the challenge blogs until I crash with the T.V. and laptop on my lap...All to start all over again until the weekend...Which those two days do not seem to be much different lately..I am in about three different clubs along with mentoring a little sister and going to church and the gym...Pretty boring but exhausting all the same...Sorry that's all I have for you on this one...PEACE

THE DAY YOU LEFT AND NEVER CAME BACK..DAY 26

There was a time in my life I thought I had a best friend..one that would hold my secerts and not judge me...there was a time I thought me and this person in this picture would never be separated from each other...I thought of her as a sister..I called her mother Mama....We were friends since the 8th grade...I even went to stay with her and her family when I was 18 for a short time when they found out I was homeless (that's another story)...You ever make a bond where you say to each other we will never let any man come inbetween our relationship...Well in this case it did...after I met my future husband and kids father this is exactly what happen to our friendship...For the most part I would not say it was all her fault a lot of it was mine too...I should of listened to her when she told me to leave him...but you know how it is when you fall in love...you have to learn the hard way...I guess that is where my daugther gets it from...she is just as hard headed as I was (A true mini me)...Anyway back to this when I did not leave him after a violent incident between me and him that she saw she kinda of kepted her distance..Now a days I don't blame her for it but back then I felt like she was turning her back on me when I really needed a friend the most...Years had pasted and we tried to give our friendship a jump start but she had changed..she turned into a very judgemental and controlling person..For one I am a leader or a lonely or nothing at all and then I found out we both did not have much in common anymore...The last straw was when she took an innocent video I posted on my Facebook page all out of content and started talking about me to other associate we knew...I deleted...blocked her and never looked back....It's been about five years now...I did hear from the grapevine she got married and it lasted only one year and then she moved back to Kansas the state she got her College Degree and she never had any kids...I never even thought about her again until this blog subject came up..Nice Job KIWI..LOL

A DAY YOU ARE PLANNING FOR...DAY 25

You see that picture right there..I can't wait until I can just sit back and relax and watch a view like this everyday...the day I will retire from the wonderful world of working in corporate america...BYE BYE ASS HOLES..LOL

A MEMORABLE SUMMER DAY..DAY 24

I don't have many memorable moments in my childhood and even though my teenage years I did have some exciting moments...Well none I choose to share in this Blog..LOL..I will however rewind some years later in my adult years to when I had my children...I always enjoy anytime I spend with my kids..even to this day with them being young adults now...I do remember the summer we took a road trip to Florida to visit my grandmother (My father's mother)...I was really excited not only was this my kids first trip down there..it was mine...In the 15 years since she moved down there..I never got a chance to go visit her..So I was really excited...The only thing is I went with my aunt and her grown kids and grandkids..WHAT A MESS that was...I ended up having a ball once we actually got down there like 1 1/2 days it took us to get down there..because we had kids and a baby we had to stop at a motel and spend a night and get up early to finish the ride...Going thru Georgia is too long for anyone's behind...I took the kids the Disneyland and Universal Studios...They had a ball...this was my son's first trip any where and surprisingly that kid did good..better than the rest of the kids in the car even with his disability and all..I was so proud of him the most rewarding part of the trip was seeing him getting on the Spiderman and the Hulk rides at Universal Studios...he was the happiest kid alive...I spent so much money on him we had to borrow money on the way back home...LOL The only thing I would change about that trip if we ever go down there again is...NEVER to ride with my aunt or cousins again...Oh BOY what a mess that was...it was too many attitudes in one car and spoiled as hell everybody wanted their way..I have very little patience for BRATS

THE DAY I TURNED 21..DAY 23

MY DADDY..TIFFANY AND ME..

Boy oh Boy look at that picture there...I have come a long way from that...LOL..There really was nothing exciting about me turning 21 expect the fact I was a brand new mother to the cutest little mini me (She was about 3 months in that picture)...my first born..my daughter Tiffany...It seems I settled or tried to settle into family mode very early...I still do not regret having her..I just wish it was maybe five more years later...She was the most precious thing in my life and the moment I carried her I promised to be the best mother I could forever giving my all to make her life much more then mine had been...I thought about nothing at this time but my child...So no wild parties and since I did not drink or smoke I did not miss out on much anyway...For once I started to be happy with my life and nothing else mattered but me and my baby..Turning 21 was the day I knew I would never be the same ever again...

A DAY WITH MY FAMILY..I WILL NEVER FORGET..DAY 22

The first thing that comes to mind with this title is FAMILY REUNION...I always loved our family reunion's on my father's side of the family when I was younger (The summers of the 70's and 80's)...Tradition is each state will take turns in hosting the reunions each year...Each year we would have a family meeting the last day of the reunion on where the next host state will be...Our reunion's last for three days (Friday-Saturday)..like most black families...But I use to love when it was our turn to host...The people in Detroit really knew how to get down and have fun if we don't do anything else in this city....LOL Anyway my grandfather was the head of our family so the reunion when it was in Detroit was always centered around what he wanted us to do...We always had plenty of food...I got to see all of my cousins from near and far...And they always seemed to be much nicer than the cousins I had that actually lived here...Mainly because they did not judge...we were all family poor or not..they did not look down on me and my sisters..they did not talk about our clothes and treated us all the same..we had fun together and not in secret circles...That was the only time of the year I felt I had a real purpose and meaning in that family..I missed those days..I still try to stay close to my family members that live in other states..Especially the ones that live in New York...I love coming out there to visit with them..I always feel like a super star whenever I am around them...One day from one of the family reunion that I remember the most was in the Summer of 86...We are a very talented and entertaining family..very musical...but this was the first year everyone got to see me and my sisters true talent...We had a talent show the night of the family dinner and me and my sister got up there and sang a Clark Sister song  acappella....hitting notes in five part harmonies...Everyone was amazed even the family members that lived here...They tried to convince my father to do something with our talent..but my father tried to be a performer himself..even got an offer from Berry Gordy himself..but Berry wanted him to leave his group and my father was loyal back then and refused...I think he still regrets that to this day but he did not want the same faith for his girls (Like the Braxtons did)..to have to choose and separate us..After that every reunion the request was for the Allman Sisters to sing...Even though now a days me and my sisters do not sing as much together anymore..I will always cherish the memories we had when we did..Especially that one special day when we showed our family that we had arrived...Take notice

MY FIRST AND LAST LOVE...DAY 21

My first and last love...Well let's see we met my first year at a Community College..I was 18 and he was 19..he was in my math class..I did not pay attention to him much...but it seem he was watching me and even following me...I kinda of blocked a lot of folks out at this time in my life because I truly was not where I wanted to be...I was totally bummed out at the fact that I had to settle for Community College over the University I really wanted to go too...(but that is another story..told in my high school year blog)...So all I wanted to do was get though this year...I tried to keep to myself but for some reason every where I turned it was always someone trying to talk to me..sit with me in the study hall and it was always some knuckle headed boy...Well any way this one day I forgot my math book and I tearing up my bag in class trying to find it...As I was getting up to leave the class...the boy that was watching me all of this time grabbed my hand and said don't leave you can share with me...Can we say lifesaver because we had a final exam coming up and I could not miss that class..not on that day..After class I thanked him and proceeded to leave school for the day...I did not have a car back then..I took the bus every where..As I was standing at the bus stop waiting on my bus here comes this black Ford Escort pulling up and it was HIM again..I am thinking at this point What the Hell does he want now!!..I mean he was cute but cute was not amusing to me at that point of my life..I had cute before..Cute play not so cute games...He ask if I needed a ride and I said No I got it..he pulled off..HOW RUDE...he did not even try to convince me more...ASS HOLE...A week pasted by..things were kinda of quiet in the class...this one day it was raining hard outside...I HATED days like this when I had to go stand at the bus stop...I am standing out there getting drenched...the umbrella I had was full of shit that day..flipping all up and down...Just as I was about to win the fight with the umbrella guess who pulls up HIM...He started laughing and said come on get in I will take you home...At this point I did not care if Jack the Ripper was in that car I was getting in and I did...He grabbed a towel from his back seat and went to wipe my face...I looked at him like I can do it Thank you..I was such a hard head back then (thinking back)...he started up a conversation we talked about a lot in that 20 minutes...As he pulled up to my house he asked I would love to see you again not just in math class..I have been wanting to ask you this for a long time but I thought you had someone because you were so distance..I was like what am I suppose to be falling all over every cute guy I see and stares at me..He was like no when you said you did not want a ride the other day I thought it was because you had a boyfriend..I told him never assume especially when it comes to me..just ask..he said noted..We exchanged numbers and from that day on we were inseparable ..We talked so much on the phone we fell asleep...He took me everywhere with him and of course I never had to catch the bus again..he taught me how to drive and even bought me my first car...He bought me Roses almost every time we saw each other..he was my first real experience to a romantic date..The first place we moved in together with was his first...He knew of my past and he still wanted to be with me...Speeding up the story a bit like years later (It's a lot to our story believe me)...My first love was my first everything...We ended up getting married..had two kids together and bought our first house together ..I will always cherish my memories with him and the friendship we shared and the gift of life we gave each other...We fought a lot..cried a lot..loved a lot and to this day I can say he is still the only man besides my father I truly trust with my life...We will always have a connection no matter where we are and who we are with...We did more than just love..we grew and learned..But I get this feeling with Grand kids in our future the journey is not over yet...